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    The Crazy World of Dating

    Our 17 year old recently discovered that her dad and I met online and she was ‘amused, with a hint of confused’. She asked, “Why online? Why can’t you just meet people ‘normally’?.” Now I was the one finding it odd, as this was coming from someone whose entire generation lives online! I don’t know about you, but how many times have you been out somewhere and randomly bumped into someone who might just be the love of your life?! I’m pretty sure that only happens in films (do let me know if you met that way!). I asked her how her dream meeting would go and she reeled off…

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    The Crazy World of War – a Spouse Perspective

    Wherever you’re from, be it Britain, America, Ukraine, Russia, or somewhere else in the world; a military spouse is a military spouse. With recent escalations, I thought I’d try and share (my take on) the perspectives of spouses around the globe. Whilst the world is watching events unfold, spouses are watching from their own unique position. Over the last day or so, I have seen both British and American spouses on social media expressing their compassion for Ukrainian spouses, and their worries about what this may mean for their own serving spouse. Will they be deployed at a moment’s notice? Will they have to join NATO forces along the Baltic…

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    The Crazy World of Deployment!

    3 years…where did they go?! 3 years ago, I was getting up at 4am to wave off my not-husband to Canada. He was deploying for the second time that year! You begin to accept that getting up at 1, 2, 3, 4 or even 5am is just part of the deal sometimes! The alarm goes and we get up in the dark, sneaking downstairs, trying not to wake anyone else. The Spaniel thinks it’s wonderful we’re up, celebrating by banging his tail against the kitchen radiator! Ssh!! We had been through a deployment once already that summer, he’d only been home six weeks and boy did we squeeze a lot…

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    The Crazy World of Adulting!

    Do you feel like an adult yet? I think we’ve all questioned this at some point. Haven’t we?! “Are we ‘adulting’ correctly?!” I glanced over at the birthday card on the fireplace whilst sipping my morning tea and it hit me! Right there, right then. I am an actual adult! Sharing my story because I feel we all question ourselves sometimes and yet we’re all doing just fine! The birthday card was “To my wonderful (not) Wife and Best Friend”. It suddenly dawned on me. This person in my life – my amazing not-husband – thinks the world of me. He thinks I’m great and appreciates all I do! Who’d…

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    Weekending!

    The highs and lows of ‘weekending’ – military style. Urgh! Sunday evening and he’s leaving…AGAIN! Weekending sucks! How many of you can relate? My wonderful not-husband leaves somewhere between 1800-1930 every Sunday, either to pick up others or be picked up. He’s working 180 miles from home during the week and travelling a good 4 hours (if he’s lucky) back each Friday to be with us. (aka weekending) Why? Because the Army says so! Luckily only April – July for us, I know some of you do this long-term and I take my hat off to you! Walking into a quiet, empty house, looking at the chaos in the kitchen…

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    So Who Am I? – The Unmarried Military Spouse

    I’m just an ordinary unmarried military spouse trying to adult my way through life, with a hint of what I like to call ‘a crazy brain‘. You know, those weird ass, mostly nonsense thoughts you have sometimes, where you wonder if anyone else thinks these things… Well I’m here to tell you they do! It’s hard isn’t it? Life! Having entered the over 30’s category as an unmarried military spouse, I decided a blog might be a good idea (and now a podcast!) I question everything and try to find my own logic through it. I figured if I write and just one person can relate (and feel a little more…