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Unmarried Military Spouse
As I head towards my sixth year as an unmarried military spouse, I thought it was about time I shared my take on it. Being a military family, everyone just assumes you’re married, and that automatically makes you a ‘dependant’ (do you all hate that too?!) I want to delve into the world of the modern military family. So here goes… Quick back story to get you up to speed if you don’t have time to scroll back through my blog. My not-husband and I met back in 2015. We met online as I was working 13-hour shifts on a surgical ward, and he was doing the usual too-ing and…
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Children and Marriage – Does it become a necessity?
As an unmarried military spouse with a new baby, I’m questioning if having children changes how marriage is viewed, or perhaps if marriage become a necessity? I want to explore how having children shifts dynamics. I’ve talked before about being an unmarried military spouse but here’s a quick recap (or read the full intro here) We’ve been together for over 5 years, I am step-parent to his teen girls (13 & 15) and we’ve not tied the knot. For a military couple, some people find this odd, but for us, it just hasn’t been an issue. We own our own home and my not-husband is stationed nearby. He has been…
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The Crazy World of Adulting!
Do you feel like an adult yet? I think we’ve all questioned this at some point. Haven’t we?! “Are we ‘adulting’ correctly?!” I glanced over at the birthday card on the fireplace whilst sipping my morning tea and it hit me! Right there, right then. I am an actual adult! Sharing my story because I feel we all question ourselves sometimes and yet we’re all doing just fine! The birthday card was “To my wonderful (not) Wife and Best Friend”. It suddenly dawned on me. This person in my life – my amazing not-husband – thinks the world of me. He thinks I’m great and appreciates all I do! Who’d…
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Why is it women take their husband’s name after marriage?
What’s in a name? I’ve seen many articles about the origins of a name but I want to explore the ‘tradition’ of women taking their husband’s surname after marriage. With changing times, has it lost its favour? Is it still as important and is it acceptable for a man to take his wife’s name instead? For me, it’s been a topic of much debate with my own not-husband on many occasions. He is a very traditional man, proud of his male lineage and believes strongly in passing down his family name. Unfortunately, I too am proud of my surname and hate the idea of losing it! Luckily we aren’t planning…
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So Who Am I? – The Unmarried Military Spouse
I’m just an ordinary unmarried military spouse trying to adult my way through life, with a hint of what I like to call ‘a crazy brain‘. You know, those weird ass, mostly nonsense thoughts you have sometimes, where you wonder if anyone else thinks these things… Well I’m here to tell you they do! It’s hard isn’t it? Life! Having entered the over 30’s category as an unmarried military spouse, I decided a blog might be a good idea (and now a podcast!) I question everything and try to find my own logic through it. I figured if I write and just one person can relate (and feel a little more…