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    The Crazy World of Deployment!

    3 years…where did they go?! 3 years ago, I was getting up at 4am to wave off my not-husband to Canada. He was deploying for the second time that year! You begin to accept that getting up at 1, 2, 3, 4 or even 5am is just part of the deal sometimes! The alarm goes and we get up in the dark, sneaking downstairs, trying not to wake anyone else. The Spaniel thinks it’s wonderful we’re up, celebrating by banging his tail against the kitchen radiator! Ssh!! We had been through a deployment once already that summer, he’d only been home six weeks and boy did we squeeze a lot…

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    Why is it women take their husband’s name after marriage?

    What’s in a name? I’ve seen many articles about the origins of a name but I want to explore the ‘tradition’ of women taking their husband’s surname after marriage. With changing times, has it lost its favour? Is it still as important and is it acceptable for a man to take his wife’s name instead? For me, it’s been a topic of debate with my own not-husband on many occasion. He is a very traditional man, proud of his male lineage and believes strongly in passing down his family name. Unfortunately, I too am proud of my surname and hate the idea of losing it! Luckily we aren’t planning to…

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    Weekending!

    The highs and lows of ‘weekending’ – military style. Urgh! Sunday evening and he’s leaving…AGAIN! Weekending sucks! How many of you can relate? My wonderful not-husband leaves somewhere between 1800-1930 every Sunday, either to pick up others or be picked up. He’s working 180 miles from home during the week and travelling a good 4 hours (if he’s lucky) back each Friday to be with us. (aka weekending) Why? Because the Army says so! Luckily only April – July for us, I know some of you do this long-term and I take my hat off to you! Walking into a quiet, empty house, looking at the chaos in the kitchen…

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    Loss vs Life

    Part One – Before The Loss I wanted to share a little of my journey through grief with you. Why?! Because I wish I’d have understood more about the grieving process before it started. Before I experienced the loss! Losing my amazing Dad has been the toughest, most self-defining time of my life. It made me question everything, it changed my view on life and it pushed me to confront fears I never knew I had. The Beginning We never saw it coming! June 2018, Father’s Day. Little did we know, it’d be our last! My Dad and I shared that day in a hospital observations ward. He’d had back…