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Unmarried Military Spouse
As I head towards my sixth year as an unmarried military spouse, I thought it was about time I shared my take on it. Being a military family, everyone just assumes you’re married, and that automatically makes you a ‘dependant’ (do you all hate that too?!) I want to delve into the world of the modern military family. So here goes… Quick back story to get you up to speed if you don’t have time to scroll back through my blog. My not-husband and I met back in 2015. We met online as I was working 13-hour shifts on a surgical ward, and he was doing the usual too-ing and…
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Children and Marriage – Does it become a necessity?
As an unmarried military spouse with a new baby, I’m questioning if having children changes how marriage is viewed, or perhaps if marriage become a necessity? I want to explore how having children shifts dynamics. I’ve talked before about being an unmarried military spouse but here’s a quick recap (or read the full intro here) We’ve been together for over 5 years, I am step-parent to his teen girls (13 & 15) and we’ve not tied the knot. For a military couple, some people find this odd, but for us, it just hasn’t been an issue. We own our own home and my not-husband is stationed nearby. He has been…
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Pregnant in a Pandemic
Being pregnant during a global pandemic wasn’t the best timing, but here’s why it wasn’t all bad! 26th January 2020 – I found out I was pregnant. No one in the UK really thought anything of this virus that was taking hold in a little city in China. We had no idea what was about to come our way! On January 31st, the first two cases in the UK were confirmed. 28th February, the first British death occurred on board the Diamond Princess Cruise Ship, quarantined at the Port of Yokohomo, Japan. 5th March, the first death inside the UK, and the total number of cases stood at just 115.…
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The Crazy World of Deployment!
3 years…where did they go?! 3 years ago, I was getting up at 4am to wave off my not-husband to Canada. He was deploying for the second time that year! You begin to accept that getting up at 1, 2, 3, 4 or even 5am is just part of the deal sometimes! The alarm goes and we get up in the dark, sneaking downstairs, trying not to wake anyone else. The Spaniel thinks it’s wonderful we’re up, celebrating by banging his tail against the kitchen radiator! Ssh!! We had been through a deployment once already that summer, he’d only been home six weeks and boy did we squeeze a lot…
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The Crazy World of Adulting!
Do you feel like an adult yet? I think we’ve all questioned this at some point. Haven’t we?! “Are we ‘adulting’ correctly?!” I glanced over at the birthday card on the fireplace whilst sipping my morning tea and it hit me! Right there, right then. I am an actual adult! Sharing my story because I feel we all question ourselves sometimes and yet we’re all doing just fine! The birthday card was “To my wonderful (not) Wife and Best Friend”. It suddenly dawned on me. This person in my life – my amazing not-husband – thinks the world of me. He thinks I’m great and appreciates all I do! Who’d…
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Weekending!
The highs and lows of ‘weekending’ – military style. Urgh! Sunday evening and he’s leaving…AGAIN! Weekending sucks! How many of you can relate? My wonderful not-husband leaves somewhere between 1800-1930 every Sunday, either to pick up others or be picked up. He’s working 180 miles from home during the week and travelling a good 4 hours (if he’s lucky) back each Friday to be with us. (aka weekending) Why? Because the Army says so! Luckily only April – July for us, I know some of you do this long-term and I take my hat off to you! Walking into a quiet, empty house, looking at the chaos in the kitchen…
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So Who Am I? – The Unmarried Military Spouse
I’m just an ordinary unmarried military spouse trying to adult my way through life, with a hint of what I like to call ‘a crazy brain‘. You know, those weird ass, mostly nonsense thoughts you have sometimes, where you wonder if anyone else thinks these things… Well I’m here to tell you they do! It’s hard isn’t it? Life! Having entered the over 30’s category as an unmarried military spouse, I decided a blog might be a good idea (and now a podcast!) I question everything and try to find my own logic through it. I figured if I write and just one person can relate (and feel a little more…